Sunday, August 27, 2006

Dreamt about him again!!

Heh!! finished up my O level June math paper le.!! score pretty well in paper 1...Paper 2 haven get the answer from my friends yet...yep got certain part i really dunno how to do..haha!! nvm i shall asked my math teacher...=) If not i shall approach Calvin...Yep Finished my paper 2 at around 1.20am...den kept all my stuff, wash up den listened to radio while waiting for his call =x Dun wanna miss his call again..stupid lorr...tat nite din feel the vibration...argh!! well...Wait wait wait...about 1.35am...decided to give him a call..yep dial his number liao..den hang up cos i wanna pack my bag first =x Packed finished le...wait again...was lying on the bed while waiting for his call..yep hold my phone tight...incase i fall asleep again..yep i fall asleep for a while..haha!! yep wake up at 2pm..den ok..decided to call him liao..and stupid donkey!! he sleep le -.-'' sad is sad la..bt what else can i say or do about it?? Yep off my phone and went to sleep in peace...lolx

And guess wad?? i dreamt abt him again!! i dunno what kind of disease i'm having lah..almost everytime when he din call mie..i will dreamt abt him..never mind..isn't tat good?? at least can feel his presence =x OMG!! i'm being too thick skin liao..thanks to geradine =x yep tat time i dreamt abt him talking to mie on the phone..this time is dreamt about him telling mie tat he is drunk tat's why he din call mie..haha!! Also dreamt about vanessa and a guy...they went for DIVING!! OMG!! saw them in TV =x And this vanessa is soo shy...dun wan to look at the camera..lolx..yep then dreamt of calvin looking for them..bt failed...erm..can't really rmb everything about the dream...the dream is jumping here and there..haha!!

Been studying my chemistry for the whole afternoon...yep decided to take a rest...Went to my study table and took out a magazine "Teens" [June 2005]...Was looking at "twins" haha!! They soo cute!! Especially Charlene Chio!! Love her man!! But i still prefer one of the hong kong star "Xuan Xuan"..sooo sad lor..she going back to hong kong this friday le..haish...yep was scanning through the whole magazine..nothing really interest mie beside TWINS!! Then happened to turn to a page which really force mie to read it..hahaa...guess wad is it?? "How do you stop fighting with your partner??" yep decided to type everything out for you people to read it...cos it seemed like everyone around mie is in love with someone..Jess in love with Someone...den Vanessa start missing someone...Calvin in love with his senior...Geradine and Jeffery...So this entry might benefit to Jessica, geradine Vanessa and Calvin...=)

How To Avoid Conflict??

* Acceptance and understanding is crucial. Instead of trying to change your partner to suit your whim, think of what attracted you to your partner in the first place and give him or her space to develop his or her interests and talents. Respecting your partner's time and space shows you respect your partner as a person.

* Ask yourself if your demands or tantrums are reasonable. Often we get angry and upset at our partners for no reason at all, but just to pick a fight because we feel like it. Girls are especially guilty of this when they are going through PMS. They become cranky, needy and emotional. Think instead of blowing your top, cool off before talking rationally to your partner.

*Never take your partner for granted. Don't assume you can bully your partner by shouting or venting your frustatrations on him or her without any consequence, just because they don't shout back. Everyone has a breaking point, and it is unreasonable to subject your partner to verbal abuse and expect him or her to just stomach it all.

* Listen and compromise. Sometimes it is inevitable that you and your partner will clash over certain issues. However, this does not mean it is the end of the road for your relationship. By learning to meet each other halfway, both of you can come away from the argument feeling like you won something. Compromise also requires a lot of understanding and acceptance. Instead of always imposing your views on your partner, allow your partner to share his or her side, and then make a decision together.

* Share your thoughts and feelings as openly and honestly as possible to avoid miscommunication, as these often breed mistrust and insecurity. Talk to your partner about your feels and let him or her know exactly why you feel upset. Getting angry and throw tantrums only makes matter worse as no one knows why you got angry in the first place.

Well, if two people love and respect one another and are willing to make sacrifices for each other, then a loving and fulfilling relationship is definitely attainable. With some patience, understanding and proper communication, you have the relationship you've always dreamed of with the boy or girl of our dreams.

Causes of Conflict:

*Lack of trust
Trust is crucial in any relationship, and when there is a lack of trust between partners, conflicts are bound to arise. Trust is earned. For example, if you constantly are out with people of the opposite sex and don't your partner know about it, or lying about it, your partner is bound to feel insecure and jealous. Don't expect them to trust you when you say you are "just going out with your friends" after that. And please note that once you have lost your partner's trust, it'll be difficult to ever regain it.

*Lack of communication
Communication is not just talking. Problem is that many couples don't realised this. Communicating is going beyond talking about trivial things. It is more than telling your partner about what you bought or what you had for lunch. Rather, it's revealing your inner feelings and expectaions about relationship, and really listening to what each other has to say. True communication takes patience and honesty.

*Trying to change your partner
Remember the things you liked about boy/girlfriend before you actually became a couple? Perhaps you fancied his passion for music or you liked the way she seemed to be so independent. Now it seems like all the things you once liked about him or her annoys you. You can't stand it that he wants to jam with his friends, or hate it when she goes out with her friends without you. The bottom line is that you want him or her to be a totally different person- the person you want them to be, not the person that he or she is.

Oftentimes, people feel angry and resentful when their partners try to change them, because they feel they cannot be themselves or pursue their own interests. They have to do the things that their partners likes, even if it makes them feel unhappy.

*Unequal Expectations/ opposing values
The chief cause for conflicts in a relationship is when two persons do not see eye to eye on issues or do not have the same value system. This can range from simple things like where to go for dinner. Or perhaps you feel like taking the relationship to a deeper, more serious level, but your partner seems only interested in having a little bit of fun for a while. When two persons cannot view the relationship on the same level, someone is bound to feel hurt or disappointed because his or her partner doesn't see the relationship in the same way they do.

wah!! Soo long!! hand tired le..lolx..aniwae it's worthy la...type one entries on this...can benefit 5 people...haha!! Good luck for your love life =)

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Sunday, August 27, 2006

Dreamt about him again!!

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